So here in this video No.
I would like to present you with the sixth step no lose life coaching method.
This is pretty much as close to our process as what I'm going to give you.
And this course is one that by now you're hopefully actually already becoming familiarized with because
it's what they actually demonstrated very sneakily in a stealth like way and that last demonstration
with Karen when I was just having that conversation.
Practicing the core skills.
So and this is six steps and this is kind of the conversational process that you want to be gate in
your clients through and pretty much every session.
If you even decide to build this six step no lose life coaching method into the context if your day
to day interactions with other people I guarantee you very very quickly you are gonna become the kind
of person that people absolutely love being around because everyone in the world loves a good problem
solver don't they all right and it's not that you even need to have all the answers to be problems right.
All that you need to know is understand the process through which you can help other people bring resolve
into their own lives by dealing with it overcoming their own issues and pursuing their own goals.
So step number one.
All right.
You can't bring about or find or source a solution for a problem until you find it.
All right.
So take these take note these six steps all right and allow this to become your framework if you like
and free coaching conversations moving forward.
Step number one define the problem right now in order to define the problem or you're actually going
to do is listen to understand the real needs and the motivations and the drivers of the client and just
simply agree upon the problem.
That's to be solved.
All right.
No this is important I'm being as articulate here as what it can be.
Agree upon the problem to be solved.
No I like to do this in every single session that I have right at the start within the first couple
of minutes of a conversation otherwise a coach and conversation can become a you know always me.
Conversations have a tendency sometimes to spiral out of control and grow arms and legs and become you
know all sorts.
If we don't have a purpose for the conversation.
So once we define the problem and we agree on the problem to be solved then we actually have agreed
upon a shared goal and this is kind of what coaching is all about.
It's about working with our clients and standing alongside our clients to bring resolve into various
areas of their life.
So then what we do is we just simply brainstorm possible solutions and we do this conversationally.
Now there are some tools that we can use and to make this slightly more visual.
When I introduce one of these to you in the business planning section which is inside the business building
section which is incidentally a tool that we can use in any aspect of our lives we can pretty much apply
to any aspect of our clients lives.
All right if we feel it to be appropriate when we're brainstorming possible solutions we're talking
about what immediate possible solutions might be to this problem that we've just discussed and it's
all about us redirect and our clients focus away from what they see the problem as being and towards
solutions.
All right it's all future focused all positive by nature right.
So we're just helping them to shift their focus away from what they don't want and towards how they're
going to move beyond that which they don't want.
Step number three honestly evaluating the solutions.
Is good to have options and choices in life isn't it.
So when we start conversing it might be the case that we identify two or three possible solutions for
a problem or an issue or it might be the case that we identify three or four ways or two ways that we
could start tackling and or pursue or moving closer towards a common goal or objective that we have.
But to be honest remember we can only ever focus on doing one thing well at any one given moment in
time.
So sometimes effectiveness in life comes through the process of eliminating all the options that aren't
going to be our best possible option or path.
If that makes sense.
So once we've brainstormed possible solutions we want to honestly evaluate the solutions so that with
our clients we can just help them decide on what the best next step is that they can take.
All right.
This is what caution is all about.
And by testing the possible solutions and asking any reason why this might not work.
Is there any reason why this is the best solution over other possible solutions.
And remember it's not about us having an opinion here it's about us coaching out of our clients what
it is that they actually want to do and what they see the best possible next steps are that they can
they can take and then we've got to make a decision we've got to choose the best solution.
So for Karen and this was the point of the conversation was it to.
Although the last demonstration where I then turned up the heat.
All right.
You may want to go back and watch that demonstration again just to see exactly where and on this because
once we've discussed possible solutions we've done brainstorm and this is all quite a light level conversation
we've now got to get focused.
We've got to make a decision because until a decision has been made or action will be will be taken.
All right so we need to both agree on a solution or even a combination of solutions.
And currents case and that last discussion that we had we agreed upon spending two hours today for Curran
to work out some sort of online software solution is going to enable Hart to better planet our days
and what we looked at was if we take two hours doing this today then moving forward from tomorrow onwards
current can actually build a new habit into her morning routine where she evaluates and assesses her
priorities for the day to allow her to be more effective with our team.
So everyone needs to be action focused and we need to be making decisions about action steps that need
to be taken right away.
And this is why we've got to choose the best solution.
We can't afford to have a coaching session just end with a decision haven't been made otherwise.
You know this is realistically going to be coming at the cost of progress being made.
So every decision every coaching session must end in a decision being made an agreed action steps being
decided upon and this decision to step five plan some possible next action steps.
And this is where alongside our clients we're gonna discuss and decide upon what the best next steps
are to take.
They've just watched me do this with Karen.
This is about no me asking Karen or the clients or what do you see the backs the best next steps are
to take and this is going to be the only appropriate time in a coach and session or a relationship to
actually make some suggestions.
And this is where and that may be the case.
Our clients have a best case ideal scenario but it may be the case we see something else and this is
where we can give them more options.
So is this going to be the best possible option.
I mean I see this being an option for you potentially.
What do you think.
And it's not about us telling our clients what to do or even advising.
It's just about are still exploring options so that we can actually make a decision and at the end of
this conversation make a decision about what the actual next steps are that our clients are going to
take.
Everything must be geared to warns them actually doing something and moving all right.
No it's only if we reach this step five off this can a no lose life coaching method that we're really
going to qualify ourselves for another session.
All right.
No I'm not saying that's all we want to be working with clients forever.
But what I am saying in the early stages until our clients become more effective at actually taking
action sometimes just move in and doing stuff can be like a whole new habit that our clients have to
integrate and build into their lives.
So until our clients have reached the stage where they are proactively taken action steps to drive their
own lives forward they are possibly still going to need some assistance and some accountability from
us.
Now a great example I could give if I could give off of coaching being done well through accountability
groups like slamming worlds or dieting world which is pretty much a group or a global movement isn't
it.
And this is where groups of people men and women get together once a week for their weekly weigh in.
All right.
And then they talk about their goals about how much or how many pounds or how much weight they want
to lose between this we can next week and then hold each other to account and share recipes with each
other and they agree on action steps that they need to take and then to turn up next week and then you
know if God forbid someone has put on some weight instead of losing some weight that sets and we look
and re evaluate the process and what needs to be done definitely next week.
All right.
Well this is just pretty much the same way more of an accountability process as it's can about what
kind of what question is and if we agree on some next action steps to take here Step Five then next
week is all about accountability.
So did you take those steps.
If not why not.
If so how they worked for you and how might we apply this new habits into other areas of your life.
What other voids Do you have.
All right.
It's not about us creating a role for ourself as life coaches but if there are and if they do continue
to be voids in our clients lives that they identify.
Of course there's still gonna be room and space for us.
So choosing a date for the steps to be taken by and this is where we might want to book in our next
life coaching session and even take a deposit.
No this is gonna be the first time in the course of can hear me talk about money.
All right.
And I want to share with you the philosophy behind taking a deposit for next session.
So let's just say that in session one or session to you work through all this you've defined the problem
you've brainstorm some solutions and then you honestly evaluate the solutions and then you choose the
best solution and then you plan some possible next action steps and then you choose a date for the steps
to be taken by all right.
If they're Klein says right.
Within two weeks I'm going to have these action steps taken say right.
Should we book in another coaching session then so that I can hold you to account.
And if you say yes that's fantastic.
Then you say right.
Or how about you pay a deposit or pay for that session upfront.
Why.
Because people only ever put money into those things that they are committed to.
All right.
So you know if a person parts with their hard earned money then they're taken and the coaching session
is pretty serious.
And also creating change in their life.
So sometimes when a person has to spend money this can become just an extra layer of motivation for
them.
Plus you stand at less risk of being stood up again in the future.
So it kind of kills two birds with one stone.
So this is the sixth step no lose life coaching method I just wanted to explain to you and these six
steps to help you better appreciate what it is that have actually been conversationally guiding current
through over the demonstrations that you've seen so far in the course.
All right.
No I'm not going to give you another demonstration of this because I've given you a few already.
But in the video that follows I'm going to share with you a very very cool conversational technique
that we can use to help our clients become crystal clear on why they're doing what they're doing and
the details of what they need to do next.
In response to any goal or any vision or any aspiration that they set themselves.
And again this is just something that we can use as coaches to build to build an extra layer of accountability
and transparency in our coaching relationship.
So no we in all the secret sauce.
All right.
This is the.
And the method that I'm hoping you are going to be able to start coach and engage in other people through.
But I look forward to seeing you in the next clip where we're going to look at the hierarchy of ideas.